We have all heard the saying, “your vibe attracts your tribe”, but what does that even MEAN? Does it mean that there is only one group of people out there that can “get you” and understand you? Nope, I am finding that your “tribe” can change, evolve, and you can have more than one!
I believe that we NEED multiple tribes to be a part of and that they will change as we grow both in our personal and professional lives. I would like to think of it more as different communities that you are a part of and that are a support system for an area in your life. Imagine having a community to go to that supports you in your professional life, one that supports you in your home/momma life, and one that is just for you in your journey of being a woman in the crazy world. Personally I have 4 communities of women and men that I know I can reach out to when I am having a tough day, when I have something to celebrate, or when I have questions.
My Supportive Communities
Who should be in your community?
Professional Community: I have two professional communities because I have two businesses that I am building and while these is some crossover of people, I have two groups that I find super supportive. I have changed professions and the community I had in my prior career no longer serves me in a positive way, so I had to leave. And that’s ok! If you are no longer finding benefits to a community, if it gives you any negativity or is draining, you best leave it.
I strongly suggest finding people in your profession that you admire, trust, and who is are positive people. Finding people who are successful in your profession and that you can learn from when you are starting will be powerful for you. Then when you are a huge success, you can be the one to help others!
I love leaning on and learning from other female business owners. The women from Hometown Poke, Gingersnaps Bakery, Designed by Delsie, and so many others provide not only support, but insight into the world of a female business owner. Finding strong women who do their thing and do it well are a huge inspiration!
Every profession is different with its own unique challenges and that is why it is important to find a supportive community within your profession. I am forever thankful I found The Rising Tide Society a few years into starting my makeup business. The camaraderie we have as creatives, the understanding, and the support is helpful and appreciated. These are the people that will push you forward even when you start to doubt yourself.
Momma Community: Being married and having children is exhausting. There are so many different ways to raise our children and you are not going to vibe with every mom. The key is to find moms that have the same or at least similar mommy-ing style as you. This doesn’t mean that you lose friendships because people have different ideas and styles than you, but it does mean that when you need to bounce an idea off of someone, or you are struggling, you are calling your community.
The reason its important to find moms with the same style is that sometimes with the best intentions, moms can make other moms feel bad. We don’t do it on purpose, I know we are all just trying to navigate raising our babies the best way we know how. I found that when I found a group that did things similar to the ways I did, that we understood each other better and could offer more relative advice and guidance.
This group of book club mommas are some of the nicest women I know. We love reading and decided that meeting up once a month and discussing books we read was important and a great way for us all to get a little fun time in.
Personal Community: Girl, this community is JUST for YOU! This is the group of ladies you can call on when you having a bad day. This is the group that you call when you are ready to go out on the town. This is the group you call when you need to go get a pedicure or need a day away from everything.
This community may have some over lapping members from your other communities. This is the fun, adventurous, calming, crazy, whatever you may need community. This may be the most important community to have because it is your saving grace if everything is falling apart and it is the people who will celebrate you when you have success!
Finding your community
Sometimes it is a trial and error process to find the right people that will build you up, cheer you on, support you, and be there to lean on when times get rough. I promise you they are out there, but you need to make sure that you are attracting the right people to you. You gotta check yourself:
Are you being positive?
Do you have an attitude of gratitude?
Are you able to be happy for another person’s success?
Do you know how amazing you are?
Did you give yourself credit for being you and showing up and doing your best?
Once you find your communities make sure you are giving and are a supportive member. Remember that you do not need to have just one community that you belong to since we are multi-faceted people we can diversify and belong to a variety of communities. Your vibe is going to attract your tribe, so be in a positive state of mind as you embark on this journey and find those communities that are best suited for you.